Dull Talks

robots-cute-two-300x225Disclaimer: This post is more of a rant and I am totally taking the risk of  coming across as a snob. Well..can’t help it right now.

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So where did the art of conversation go?!

In this age of technology, everybody seems to be glued to a device. And when they are not, people can’t really find anything to talk about. Monday through Friday go by in a jiffy. Wakeup, work, get to work, work, come back home, work, eat, work, watch some TV, work, maybe a few words with friends and family, work, sleep. And did I mention work?

And on the weekends, if and when we meet people, what do we talk about? Work, kids, commute hassles, insurance, mortgage rates, restaurants you’ve recently tried, the vacation you last took, Apple’s new iPhone or Samsung’s new Galaxy, maybe a little bit about the middle-east crisis or whatever is latest in the political scene, some sports, stock market, Breaking Bad (if you are still watching), weather, celebrity news and on and on. The “conversations” more or less are along these lines. I am not saying these are bad things to talk about. But are these the only things to talk about? Is that all the mental bandwidth we are left with?

It doesn’t matter if these conversations are one on one or in a group. Family or colleagues or friends. It is just the same stuff repeated over and over, in slightly different formats with slightly different opinions.

Or is it just me? Am I expecting too much? Sometimes I feel, the mundaneness and a general apathy towards the world has dulled the conversations even more. People no longer talk about their passions or feelings or thoughts. What they felt when they visited this new place. Or what did they learn. Why they thought it was a good idea to do what they did. It is all generic one-line answers, facts and opinions on things that I can’t bring myself to care about. I am guilty of doing the same or following the lead on “dull talk”. I can’t think of interesting topics anymore. And when I do, I see that the conversation isn’t sustainable for more than a few sentences. Because people are too damn busy to think about anything else other than the things that will get them through this phase of life. Then bring on the next phase and voila, you built another set of conversations that would last a decade!

And don’t get me started on the slow painful death of a good sense of humor. It is vanishing. Like thin air out of a punctured balloon. And nobody will hear its hissing, escaping sound. Because nobody is paying attention!

Even though lives are more comfortable now, abundant with luxuries and facilities, It is just getting emptier.

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To Believe It Or Not?

[Random Ramblings]

Do you always see the truth? How do you know that whatever you are believing in is really true? How do you know that the facts and beliefs you have based certain things of your life on are true? Does that make the concept of truth subjective?

Sometimes truths and lies no longer remain absolutes. They become a matter of choice. A choice whether to consider something as true or false. Sometimes this choice doesn’t stem from a careful consideration of facts, logical deductions or contemplations. It boils down to what makes you comfortable or makes it easier to live. There could be many things in play when you treat it as a matter of choice. Trust, denial, hope, emotions, convenience, ignorance, blind faith and maybe many more. We make truth a choice because deep inside we know that it has the potential to hurt us or harm us.  Put us through pain. And we are not strong enough to take it. That is when we start choosing what we want to believe in and convince ourselves that we picked the right thing.  Almost proving that “ignorance is bliss”. But this bliss is temporary and shallow. It just tricks us into thinking that we are happy.  It might be pricking somewhere deep inside, raising a tiny voice. But we choose to ignore it. We try to put a band-aid on it and pretend everything is good and pleasant.

It takes courage to see the reality and acknowledge it. It requires us to overcome the fear of losing whatever it is at stake because of this truth and sometimes it is one of the hardest things to do in life. We need to remember that truth is not an opinion. It is not something that demands convincing. It is just there. Whether we see it or not. In my opinion, it is better to be unhappy knowing the truth than to be experiencing happiness derived from a lie. Yes, this is definitely easier said than done.

But in the end, it is still a choice that we all have to make once in a while. And there is no escape.